I’m sorry I don’t post on here consistently. Life get’s in my way and I get tied up in family things.
I was married over 18 years when my husband passed away. I waited over 3 years to even look at another man. I know a lot of men just drink of weekends and my present husband is Catholic and they do drink. So, I just thought he drank a couple of beers on the weekend. Boy did he have me fooled.
This man could never afford to live alone even though he makes a VERY good living. He drinks away his paycheck. I make the same amount of money before we were married and I can live on my own. He will drain our bank account to buy beer. I learned very early in our marriage to get a separate account and transfer all my money over to it.
There is $1.01 cents in our joint account and he bought beer out of the $20 he had in his pocket yesterday. I asked him how I was supposed to buy anything to eat until he is paid again. He said we can make it. He said that my daughter shouldn’t have had girls over and we wouldn’t have been out money to feed them. Alcoholic, right? Good thing I have my separate account. I also have no overdraft on our joint account. That’s a very good idea.
He won’t eat anything at home unless it is steak. That doesn’t happen very often, steak is high. He has expensive taste but I don’t do expensive unless it’s for my daughter.
I looked up Al-Anon meetings last night but not one is in our city. I would have to drive (at night) to a town 30 miles away. I can’t drive well at night. I dearly wish there was one here.
I do love him, he is loving, caring and takes care of us physically. I don’t want to him to leave. It is my home. He has no access to my money.
I’m just so sad that he has turned into something that I saw when I was growing up.