My New Adventures

When You Do Decide To Remarry…

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Make sure that you know everything about him. Don’t let him pull the wool over your eyes.

I stated on My New Adventures A LONG time ago that I was taking it slow in my engagement. We did end up getting married because I loved the persona he put in front of me. I thought he was a good Dad, a good man, everything. I wish that single women could interview the ex-wife before we start dating these men. I know most divorced women are going to have TERRIBLE feelings about there exes. Of course, I think I would want to interview friends of the ex too because in my case, I think the whole family might be off. I just wish future wives knew what we were getting into. Be paranoid, it could pay off in the end.

I talked about being more confident these days in my last post and I am. I just don’t know that I would have made the same choices if I had known the honest to goodness truth about the man. Heck, I should have done a people search on his whole family.

So, if you are ever in my spot and think you have fell in love. Dig up everything you can about the man~

Well, it’s been a while, but I’ve been reading things that irritate me about women over 40

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This blog is supposed to be about My New Adventures.  Well, I’ll tell you, things have really changed since I was in my 20’s.  I’m in my late 40’s and I’ve never felt more confident.  I don’t know about you, but I just seem to gain confidence as I age.

I’ve been reading on several blogs things like 5 things women over 40 shouldn’t wear or 5 cosmetics women should avoid.  I realize we are getting older and I really do agree, modesty is the way to go.  I have never really shown off any part of my body that shouldn’t be shown in public.  I wouldn’t want to embarrass myself, my husband or my daughter.

 

I live in jeans and t-shirts.  I realize some people expect women of my age should wear a certain type of clothing.  I’m basic, jeans and tees.  Guess what, I shop at the Buckle too, right along with my 16 year old daughter.  I haven’t found a pair of jeans that I prefer than Rock Revival or Miss Me.   I know that is a young adult store, but you will always see me there if I’m in the mall.  My jeans may have holes in them, FOR SHAME.  My husband, Michael, doesn’t mind.  I’m not showing my private area.  I’m comfy.   My daughter wears the same jeans.  In fact, we trade off jeans.  She’s 16.

 

My t-shirts are very comfortable.  A LOT of them are graphic tee’s.  Some of them say sarcastic things.  I’m totally fine with that.  Most of my t-shirts are a little bigger than they need to be.  I don’t like restrictive clothing.  I really don’t like the new extremely short sleeve women’s t-shirt.  I don’t like to show off that much of my arms.

Our Church is very laid back. Gracie, my daughter, dresses to the hilt.  She LOVES to dress up.  I wear my jeans (no holes) and a very nice blouse with a tank underneath.  During the night services, a lot of people wear t-shirts.  I don’t wear my sarcastic graphic ones.  I do wear t-shirts though.

Shoes, I wear what I want.  I love Sanuk, Chacos and ESPECIALLY cowboy boots.  I wear my boots even in the summer.  We are located in the South, boots are a staple.

Makeup is simple and easy for me.  I use SeneGence  products.  I wear LipSense almost everyday, almost any color and and EyeSense.  I’m also a distributor for LipSense, so if you are interested let me know.  I don’t go all out.  I’m plain and simple.

My suggestion on everything you read on the blogs, go with your gut.  Do what you want and do what makes you feel GREAT.

 

 

 

I’m Thru Taking It Slow :)

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It’s been so long since I’ve had a man that I could trust to take care of me and daughter.  I know that I have found that in my fiance.  I absolutely love him with ALL my heart.  He went above and beyond all he should have done today.

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I had a hard week last week, I mean a hard one.  I couldn’t get one thing accomplished.  Anything I could get done, was not done correctly.  The TIVO must be sent back, my printer won’t print and my windshield was cracked.  All of these problems, I could have normally taken care of.  Things just popped up around them and I could not figure them out!  My daughter and fiance just put up with me be looney about all three situations.  He knows nothing about electronics and could not help at all on the first two.  I thought I had the windshield covered until today when the repairman said he couldn’t do it.

Well, he (my fiance)  took control, he told me to chill out.  He asked a guy that he worked with to call me about the printer and that man’s advice worked perfectly.  I can now PRINT!  I “think” I might have the cable card issue figured out on the TIVO unit.  I just need to run the unit up to the cable company and they will take it out for me.  I can’t figure how to get it out, honestly.  He is doing ALL the calling on my windshield.  He’s calling repairmen and my insurance company.  He’s also taking my car in to get it’s oil changed on Friday.

This man is a dream come true to me!  I don’t want to take it slow anymore.  I’m READY to get married.  I’m going to have to start thinking about what I want to do.  By that I mean, how I want to get married.  I had a nice wedding the first time, not a huge, fancy wedding, but a nice wedding.   We both were married 20 some odd years each.  I’m thinking something just quick with our kids.  What do you think?

I’m engaged & I’m taking it slow~

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In the beginning this blog began with one of the topics being “single dating”.  Well, I’m still dating, but as an engaged lady.

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I’m taking this slow and easy.  I’m not rushing into ANYTHING at all.  I’ve been through YEARS upon YEARS of marriage.  I have a super daughter.  I have my own home and car. I’m financially stable.  I have my animals, you know that is important lol!  I can live on my own.  I’ve done it for a LONG time.

I just don’t want to rush.  I want things to be RIGHT.  I want this to be a “forever” marriage, if that’s even possible.  I mean my last one would have been, or at least I think it would have been.  It doesn’t have to be perfect, I know there will be disagreements and things will have to be worked out.   I just want the situation to be the best it can be.

I want my daughter to be well at ease.  She does like this man.  Although adding a full time man into a mix of just “two girls only” is a little odd for her.  Not a bad odd.  She loves having a man around she can depend on again.  That is awesome.  I like that.  I like that he cares for her and she does for him too.

Have any of you been in this situation?

Are You A Pickier Dater As You Get Older?

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Do you find that you are a little pickier when it comes to dating & men since you’ve gotten a little older? I feel like I have.

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You can tell by my name that I’m in my 40’s now. Dating over 40 can be tricky. In my case, I still have a child at home. I have a definite opinion on what I want and like. I really want a man that will walk hand in hand with me. One that is courteous, will have my back and will help me if I need help. I really want a great attitude and one that can make me laugh! I don’t want one that will embarrass me, one that is all over me or one that will control me.

When I was younger, I didn’t care. I would go out with whoever and would most likely go back out with them. I thought I could change how they acted. We all that’s not going to happen, don’t we? I would go out with men that were totally inappropriate for me, I just wasn’t taught any better. I wish I knew then, what I know now. Oh well, we all grow in time.

I’ve been out a few times with men and I can tell right away that I will not see that person again. I’m good at judging if I will like being with that person or not. I’m just not going to waste my time on someone that will not bring happiness into my life. I think I deserve a little happiness at this point in my life, honestly, I’ve deserved it all along.

Have your dating habits changed? Let me know!

Welcome To My New Blog!

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Hi everyone!

I’d like to welcome you to My New Adventures!  I’ve been on an adventure for the past 3 years since my husband passed away.  I’ve learned several things in the past 3 years about single parenting, dating after 40, working outside the home and setting up a new home.  It’s been a whirlwind.  I’d love to share it with you and I do hope that you’ll visit in the near future.  I will have more posts soon!